On a sunny San Diego afternoon, we sat down to chat with Loraine, a longtime participant in Alzheimer’s San Diego’s programs with a sharp mind and a keen sense of humor. We talked about how the organization’s services have provided a lifeline for her throughout her husband Dave’s journey with Alzheimer’s disease, shedding light on the impact that having a supportive community has for care partners and navigating Alzheimer’s together.
A Lifetime of Love and Partnership
Loraine and Dave’s story began over five decades ago when they first met. “Dave and I met in a dental office, where I was working,” Loraine recalls with a smile. “I thought he was cute, so I asked him to the company picnic.” They dated for about six or seven months and then got married, and a year and a half later, Loraine adopted his two boys, who were three and four years old at the time. Their love and commitment have been the foundation of a long and fulfilling life together, celebrating 53 years of marriage this year.
The Start of a New Journey & Navigating Alzheimer’s Together
Reflecting on Dave’s diagnosis, Loraine shared, “Looking back, I knew something was wrong long before the official diagnosis.” One day, Dave got lost on his way to the doctor, a route he had taken countless times before. That’s when Loraine knew they needed to seek help. Dave was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2017, marking the beginning of a new chapter filled with uncertainty and change.
Finding Support in Alzheimer’s San Diego
Loraine’s journey with Alzheimer’s San Diego began with a recommendation from a dear friend, whose husband also had Alzheimer’s. “She’s my chosen sister. I’ve known her since she was 11, and she’s 75 now.” She told Loraine to reach out to Alzheimer’s San Diego.
“I’m so grateful.”
From support groups and education to social activities and programs, Alzheimer’s San Diego has since become a crucial part of Loraine’s life. These programs have provided not just support, but also a sense of community and belonging.
The Impact of Support Groups
One of the most significant aspects of Alzheimer’s San Diego’s services for Loraine has been the support groups. As a member of two different groups, she feels connected to the members who provide support to each other.
Alzheimer’s San Diego’s support groups are more than just meetings; they’re a lifeline with “a lot of support, and a feeling of not being alone. It’s heartwarming and helpful to see what other people are going through.”
Loraine encourages anyone hesitant to join a support group to take the leap. “I was very nervous at that first meeting. I was very shy and quiet for a long time. I would just listen. And then it gets to the point that you are more comfortable with the people. And it’s not that embarrassing if you cry or laugh… and you do both.”
Support groups are a place where you can share everything from laughter to tears, from sadness to anger, and beyond, according to Loraine. “Support groups tell you things you never would have thought about and how to deal with them. Everything that happens in your home, you never know from one minute to the next what it’s going to be. And you need help working through that.”
“I wouldn’t be where I am today without [the support group].”
If you would like more information about Alzheimer’s San Diego’s caregiver support groups or other free programs available for San Diego County residents and/or those caring for someone living in San Diego County, please contact us at 858.492.4400 to speak with one of our dementia experts (Spanish speakers available). Also check out our free education classes, social activities, & more.
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